The Big PlayBack

Good Morning - Afternoon or Evening - Depending on when you read this. I Know i said i would submit a post at least twice a week, but this has been a really busy week for me. I apologize. Last night me and a buddy of mine went to a club. As i was looking around and really asking myself why was I here - I decided to make the best of a bad situation and i started to pass out my cards advertising the why do cheaters cheat website. Its funny because as me and my buddy passed them out i think we made a conscience effort to only pass them out to women - Go figure.. I expected most of the women to respond back with, im gonna call right now -- men are dogs, or my last man cheated on me, but the most common response that i got was oh hell yeah i cheated... when i asked what made you cheat - it was almost always the same excuse that their man cheated on them first. I just cant figure what makes people think that 2 wrongs make a right.. Beyond that, because honestly we have all at some point in time played into that (trying to get even @ someone else - not necesarily in a relationship - maybe a freind or associate) - whats happens after both of yall have cheated? Can the relationship ever be the same again? I guess that would depend on what the same again is... Most relationships like this start out with cheating and cant be expected to end any differently. Honestly, if its gonna be like this - why dont we just be upfront with each other and have an open relationship ? You know why we cant? I can give you 2 answers for that. The first is the classic cliche' 'We just all want our cake and to eat it to' .. I really dont even have to further explain this i think we all get the picture... The second answer is that the majority of us like the games: Whether it is to play the games and believe it or not to be played by the games. Now i know you are probably saying who in the hell wants to be played? But let me ask you this -- no matter how much a woman may say they hate getting beat up every day by their spouse, why do they keep goin back or letting him come back to the house.. As much as we all say we hate the games that people play - how much of the games do we play or play into? I believe that the majority of us that complain about about people playing games - play games ourselves... We think that because we wanna be serious with the ones we like that we are out of that phase but are we really? What about that person that we only call when everything else falls thru? what about when we purposely not answer the phone to see how persistent the person on the other end is? what about when we cancel a date because a better option has suddenly come up? Just something to think about... Dont forget to log into the www.whydocheaterscheat.com website or the myspace page @ www.myspace.com/whydocheaterscheat or call our message line @ 404-551-5529.. Until next time..................

Why do so many men cheat on their spouses?

Thank You for taking the time to visit the wdcc blog. I typically wouldnt start my first blog off talking about another article, but this one came to me from a very unlikely source. My ex-girlfreind sent me this article. I find it very ammusing for the fact that although she claims she never cheated - i am pretty sure she was one of the biggest cheaters. This article comes from the perspective of what i assume to be a married white male. I let you read this one and make your own judgements.

Why do so many men cheat on their spouses?
I admit it. In addition to spending about 24.8 hours each day being the best parent and husband I can be, I also try to find a little time to remember what it means to be a man in today's society too. One way I accomplish this is through a local men's group, and it's great. But, of course, what we have in common is that we're all Dads too, so the discussion is just as often about parenting and husbanding (as it were) as about being a man. As a result, another way that I try to stay plugged in is through Men's Health magazine, which I have to admit I enjoy reading, even if it's about 70% "guys need more sex".
But one thing that the magazine reveals, issue after issue, is just how many husbands are unfaithful in their marriages. This isn't news to me - I've seen men cheat on their spouses during business trips, know of professional women who keep a running tally of married men who have propositioned them, know more than one guy who has admitted to having an affair, and just about everyone I know who is divorced either had an affair or had a spouse that had an affair somewhere on the rocky road to dissolution.

I just don't get it, though. I mean, if you're unhappy in your relationship, fix it. If you can't fix it, leave it. Seems simple enough.
I'm not even talking about the consequences for children (and Men's Health quotes statistics that suggest 50% of men cheat on their spouses, by the way) and the added friction in the household. I'm just trying to figure out why men fool around and how they rationalize it to themselves.
So, guys, do you fool around? Have you been unfaithful? Do you just rationalize it as "as long as I don't get caught, no-one gets hurt?" What do those marriage vows mean to you, anyway?
Did you catch that this story is even showing up in today's headlines? Boeing CEO Harry Stonecipher was fired today for having an extramarital affair with a female executive at the company. As if to rationalize it away, the Wall Street Journal continues that "the woman didn't report directly to the 68-year-old, married CEO and the affair had only gone on a couple of months, was consensual, and didn't advance the woman's career." Do those last snippets matter in this situation??
I feel like the odd man out, frankly. I couldn't care less if I could "get away with it" because I still have to live with myself at the end of the day. It's still my face in the mirror every morning.
I mean, Angelina Jolie could show up at my door in a silk bit of nothing and tell me that Linda and the kids are out visiting friends for the afternoon and that she was hoping I could give her a massage and rub some oil into her nether regions and I'd just suggest she get dressed so we could get a cup of tea at the local café. Well. Maybe if it were Angelina Jolie... :-)
Seriously, what do I not get about this whole situation? How is it anything other than rampant immaturity and a completely lack of personal ethics?

How many men not only feel the way he does - but follows thru with similiar actions?? One of the questions that i notice that consistently gets asked by other men is: is it natural for a man to jus have one woman, and even beyond that is it even feasible or realistic? What percentage of men do you think actually feels this way? Definitely not the majority. As men do we ever get to a point in life where enough is enough and we are ready to throw that player towel in and cruise into the sunset with jus woman? I wish i knew the answer. I would love to hear your feedback. Until Nextime.........

i would like to thank dave Taylor for the article and you can read it at http://www.apparenting.com/why_do_so_many_men_cheat_on_their_spouses.html

welcome

Why do cheaters cheat? That is the question - but what is really the answer. Everyone that has been in a relationship has either cheated, been cheated on, or know someone that has done both. This blog corresponds with a book that i am writing that analyzes this question by sharing stories from people that have cheated or been cheated on. What i hope to accomplish with this blog and this book is to give an insight into the minds of the cheaters and the victims. Do i think this will cure the world of cheating probably not. But this will give a good insight to both ends of the spectrum. I will try and make a submission at least twice a week. This blog will be comprised of not only my personal thoughts and feedback - but i will also share articles that i find as well as comment and allow you the reader to comment of some of the submissions that are received on the www.myspace.com/whydocheaterscheat myspace page and the http://www.whydocheaterscheat.com/ website. I thank you for taking the time to read this blog and enjoy.